- Posted by Team Superwoman
- On October 17, 2014
Nichole (aka the fertile chick) is our superwoman of the month (applause). She’s a lady who battled infertility in the first 3years of her marriage and
has now devoted her life to helping others with this issue (what a kind heart). She’s the CEO of “The Fertile Chick” (www.thefertilechick.com), a wife and most importantly a mother let’s meet Nichole.
Hey there Nichole please tell us about yourself?
I’m Nicole, a happily married lady in her late 30s and a happy mom of
beautiful twin girls.
I can only but imagine how it felt to seem infertile as a woman what was your experience like in those 3years you were trying for a baby?
It was bitter. I thank God for a great husband. His support really made the wait easier. Nigerians can be very insensitive and callous, especially with the statements they make. Even supposedly close friends and relatives can spew horrible words.
How did you husband and inlaws react to you at this time?
My husband is my best friend, and frankly couldn’t understand why we were panicking. He was extremely calm during the period and was my rock. I thank God for him. My inlaws were also quite understanding. I had an encounter with a distant aunt of my husband’s, who made a cruel statement once, but that was it.
Did you at any point feel that the problem was him and not you?
Of course, when a couple is battling infertility, you both wonder what the cause could be.
When did you finally conceive and what did you do to make your conception a reality?
I conceived 2 years and 3 months after our wedding, and it was through IVF
So how are you enjoying being a mom? Is it stressful?
Being a Mom is the biggest blessing ever!!! It is quite stressful, especially juggling it with my career, but it is getting easier as they are growing. When they were newly born,it was VERY STRESSFUL!!! But I thank God for my support system
Tell us about “THE FERTILE CHICK”
The Fertile Chick is an online community / social media platform for women battling infertility, as well as women who are already pregnant, or just need people to share with. I came up with the idea when I realised there were not many forums like that here in Nigeria. There are many international ones, but none dedicated for the Nigerian woman with our unique experiences. And infertility can be a lonely road to walk….I know that first hand. Being able to talk with women going through the same thing is a lifesaver….trust me!
How do you combine your work and coordinating your website and off course your responsibilities to your home at the same time?
Effective time management, simple and short. You just have to manage your time. As a Wife and Mom, I have to be there for my family. That’s my first ministry. As a career woman, I have to give all that I can, as that pays the bills. And as the brains behind The Fertile Chick, I have to do all I can to make it a reality.
In your pre-interview you mention ladies who had similar problems denying it, why do you think they did that?
I believe they were ashamed to share that they had had IVF, or IUI, or whatever. It is still a taboo subject here in Nigeria, and nobody wants to admit it.
With your experience, have you come across special hospitals which handle the cases of infertility in Nigeria?
Many! The good, the bad and the ugly. During my quest, I went to almost all the ones in Lagos. I saw all sorts!
What would you say was the cause of your infertility?
I had some scar tissue from a previous surgery to remove fibroid, and it also affected my left fallopian tube.
What are the common causes of infertility in women?
Tubular issues, endometriosis, fibroids are common causes, but PCOS (PolyCystic Ovarian Syndrome) is fast on the rise as well. I’m not sure if it is because of the change in our lifestyle, but as many as 1 in 4 women these days have PCOS, which, in a nutshell, affects one’s ovulatory function.
Congratulations on your collaboration with “TW” magazine how did it happen?
I approached their wonderful Publisher, and she was really excited about the project and eager to help.
So how can I win a price as a member of the fertile chick community #grin?
LOL! Very easy! All you have to do is join our community, and be a regular contributor. We have prizes for community members with the most posts that month, as well as the most liked posts.
What words of advice do you have for women looking for the fruit of the womb?
Of course, they have to be prayerful and really hold on to God! But in addition, do not be stupid. Don’t just sit on your ass waiting. You need to be proactive. Make an appointment to see a Fertility Specialist, and discuss the various options available for you.
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